Boundaries Aren’t Scary: Saying “No” This Holiday Season

Why boundaries matter (especially now)

Holidays can amplify expectations, spending, and family dynamics. Healthy boundaries reduce resentment and create room for rest and real connection.

Three boundary scripts you can borrow

• Time: “I’m keeping evenings free to rest this week. I can stop by from 2–3 pm.”

• Money: “We’re doing thoughtful, low-cost gifts this year. Let’s set a $20 cap.”

• Emotional: “I’m not discussing politics tonight. Let’s keep the conversation light.”

For people-pleasers: reframing “no”

Saying no is how you say yes to your values (faith, family, health). A clear no is kinder than a resentful yes.

When boundaries trigger conflict

Notice guilt or pushback as signals—not stop signs. If patterns feel entrenched, couples or family counseling can help you align expectations before the busy season. Lampstead’s team supports individuals, couples, and families—with faith integration by request.